I might be alone in this, but I find that when I’m in a relationship, I write less.
Maybe I’m comfortable with my new routine with a boyfriend and I just don’t work writing into my schedule anymore, or maybe I’m too busy getting to know another person and attempting to make them happy to really dedicate my time to other endeavors (besides school, work, cooking, family crap, etc.). But I know not everyone is like this.
Melanie Figueroa, editor and co-creator of this blog, is in a happy relationship and also finds herself writing all the time, and she juggles schooling, boyfriend and work all while keeping up with her craft.
I’m not sure how she does it. I probably could have asked before writing this blog, but I’d rather speculate on why I don’t rather than how she does.
I don’t because I don’t make it a priority, and when I do that, my craft suffers. Does this mean I need to be single forever to become a writer?
I hope not.
Professor Corley, English professor at California State Polytechnic University – Pomona (also known as Cal Poly Pomona), gave sound advice to his poetry circle students (myself included) and told us that one shouldn’t wait for inspiration to write but to rather write systematically and on a schedule. The more you write, the better you become. With a scheduled time set aside for writing, even in a relationship, there’s no reason to ever break the pattern.
This is advice I need to follow if I want to keep a balance in my life. I must make X night for X amount of hours my time for writing. I have to turn off the television, set aside my cell phone, turn off my electronic devices (seriously, I’d type but I’d be way too tempted to log on Facebook or dick around on the internet), and pull out a pen and a pad of paper to write.
So here, in this blog, I am taking the pledge to follow Professor Corley’s advice and to write on a schedule and to keep that schedule, no matter what distractions come in the future.
– Amanda Riggle